So I was having a conversation with a close friend of mine about the topic of "sleep-overs". It came up because Ame had one last night at our GOOD friends house, the Robinson's. The friend I was discussing this with said her husband is Sooo against it, even with cousins! I said that Ame has only slept over with grandparents, cousins and her friend Savannah (or them at our house). Now I wouldn't just let my kids go to ANY friends house, especially one that I didn't know REALLY well, but to say NO to the whole idea?! My sisters stake actually brought this up in their stake conference and said NO SLEEPOVERS! I do understand the reasoning behind it, sometimes, but I think it should be left up to the parents discretion. Sleepovers bring back so many fond memories of MY childhood, both as I was younger and even as I grew older. I know that times are very different now days, than they were 20+ years ago (man that makes me feel old), but I think saying NO *period* may be just a little too extreme!!
What are YOUR thoughts???????
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that is a hard one. we know people that are so against them. we have only done them when we have to leave town. i agree that they can be so fun {great memories} but you just need to be careful with who you have them with.
I think it is such an individual thing. Cousins?? really now , why not? Friends? If you know the kids, but more importantly BOTH parents, why not? Like you said, such fun memories and kids do love it (alot more than parents)
I have thought about this topic a lot over the last couple of years. After having a lot of conversations with friends here in my ward (that have older kids), we decided that we would only be sleepovers at cousins or grandparents houses. People here in our ward do what is called a "late over" where the kids stay over late, have fun, watch movies and goof around, but they don't sleep there. That is what we have decided to do as well for our kiddos too. I have many fond memories of sleep overs too, but all the fun is before going to sleep anyway. Unfortunately (like you said) the world is a different place today than when we were younger and I'd rather be safe than sorry. Even when you know both parents, you don't know everything about them -- there are lots of seemingly good people that have problems you don't see on the surface and sometimes there are siblings & other guests to consider too. Pornography is so prevalent in our world today that it is scary -- even among LDS! You can see that it is addressed every Conference and especially at the Priesthood session. It has entrapped many good people, young and old, who might be enticed down the path of victimizing young girls or boys if given the chance. So, like I said before, I'm sad that my kids won't be able to experience sleepovers with their friends, but that is one thing we're willing to give up to spare them the other experiences that could go along with it.
If I had it my way it would be NO NO NO but Keaka says it's stupid that I feel that way. Anyhow I will put up a BIG fight when the situation does arise!
Not a big fan, but Eliza is obviously not old enough to be into sleepovers. I think it should be up to the parents. as everyone's situation is very different.
I'm glad I feel safe having our girls spend the night with each other. I will definitely be very cautious of who my kids stay with but I will let them have the opportunity.
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